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"Saved" Baby Jonathan
(born November 11, 2009)
Jonathan's 18 year old mother found out about our shelter when her baby's father found us in the yellow pages. We told her to get a cab and come for an interview. She was accepted and moved in the next day. Now she has gone from being homeless to having a healthy, handsome son and being a freshman in college. Go to the pages on this website that list Shelters by state and Crisis Pregnancy Centers. There are many people who want to help you too!
Excerpt: I'm 15-years-old and don't know how to tell my mother that I'm pregnant because she is prejudiced and my baby is bi-racial and I am afraid to tell her. Can you help?
Lifecall Reply: Do you think God cares about the color of the skin of the skin of the children He loves? Don't you think He loves us all the same?
Prejudice is a hard thing to get over but I can tell you one thing from living with unwed mothers for over 20 years and many of them have had bi-racial children. As soon as the baby is held by the 'prejudiced' grandparents love seems to overcome their feelings.
Now I have to admit there have been times that the love takes a little longer time to grow. But I can honestly promise you it does grow. If somehow you can't seem to deal with a bi-racial child there is always the blessing of adoption. Adoption is an Option.
You ask how to tell your Mom. Have you read Letters from Mothers? They are filled with lots of good ideas on what to say and what to do when a girl is pregnant and not married.
I know each and every person is different. But God is the very same each and every day for all eternity. He will help you if you ask Him to. Trust in God and pray to Him to give you the words to tell your mother.
I was thinking, why do you have to tell your mother the baby is bi-racial? Does she know the father? Is there a possibility that you could get away without telling her who the father is? If not, probably the best way to do so is to write a letter and definitely have someone older who you trust with you when you give your mother the letter. Whether you decide to tell your mom who the father is or not this is a good idea. A trusted adult could also just tell your mom for you. This might help a lot and help calm your mother enough so she can get a tiny bit used to the fact that you are pregnant before you actually speak out to her.
We do have a hotline kit, which we could send you free of charge. It has 2 videos in it and lots of great materials. Write me back with an address and we can send it right out to you. Please know that I will be praying for you and anxious to hear from you. Also feel free to add me to your buddy list and maybe we can chat online sometime soon. Have you visited our web pages:
I hope they might be of help to you, and I hope to hear from you again soon. God Bless.
Excerpt: I am 18 years old and I have a 2-year-old daughter who I love more than anything. I am still with her father, we've been together for almost 4 years now, and plan to get married one day. We both work but are currently living in my parent's home until I finish school.
I found out that I am pregnant again. I am now about 3 months. Although they were more than supportive the first time, (my mother had my sister at 18 so she understands) and totally accepted my relationship with a black man, I am afraid that they will be disappointed. Especially after I dropped out of school for a year and a half then went back, now I'm graduating this week and going on to a community college.
They're so proud of my accomplishments, and me I just don't want to disappoint them. I know that they will accept it and I don't think they'll be angry with me at all. It's just a hard situation.
Lifecall Reply: I am so sorry to see you so upset. I understand you are afraid and worried. A second baby on the way but what ever you feel and do, always remember... this baby is totally dependent on you. God's commandment is still "Thou Shalt not Kill." Life is a gift from God, not to be destroyed even if unplanned.
In the years to come, when this child is born and alive, you will see how blessed you are because you are choosing life over destruction for this child. Just look into the eyes of your first born and you know that life exists in the womb. Click on this link - Development of the Preborn Child in the Womb - and see the child as it develops inside of you again. One day at a time this baby is developing and growing inside of you.
Please ask God to strengthen you and He will. He knows you are troubled and afraid and HE will help you, all you have to do is ask it of Him.
I would like to send you our hotline kit. It has lots and lots of materials that you can use and show your baby's father. And your parents too. It is free of charge. Please if you want it, send me a name and address and I will get it out to you right away. And know that I am praying for you and your child.
Did you ever think if you aborted your baby... what your first-born would think? Eventually your first-born would find out and think, "What if mommy had conceived me second.....would she have killed me?"
You are a mother, now twice over.... just know that God will be there to help and guide you every step of the way. Please stay in touch.
Excerpt: I'm 17 and I'm certain I'm pregnant. Not only am I pregnant but I'm not married and the father of the baby is from a different ethnic group to me (he's black) and coming from a communist German background I'm trying to avoid telling the elders of my family for fear of the fact that they will make my life misery because I'm baby will turn out black.
The baby's father is denying that he even had part in it despite the fact that he is the only one I was with and to my stupidity we had sex four times without using protection that day, and even to this day he said he couldn't of gotten me pregnant despite all the circumstances. I'm positive that I'll receive no help or child support from him because if he can't pick up a phone to call me why would he do that for his child? He tells people it's not his baby and it's someone else's but he knows he's the only one I've been with for it to be him.
I'm not positive that I pregnant just yet but the chances of me being pregnant are very strong. I'm still waiting on my results and I have not the faintest idea what to expect or the symptoms. I was raised in a Christian home and symptoms are not talked about to children before marriage.
A week has passed since the incident, doctors say it's too early to find out, the 'father' takes no interest only if it's to bad mouth me now. I took a test 4 days after we had sex it came up negative. I was happy 'til I learnt that you have to take the test after the day you're due for your cycle for the test result to come up with the real test result and not knowing when that is I'm a little scared.
I've never been through this before and I don't know anyone that has. I'm still in school, I have no job, and I have no support from the father and I know if I am pregnant I want to keep my baby but I don't know how I would do it, me raising a black child in a prejudice home will only bring hurt upon the baby and onto me. I want to keep my baby but I don't know how I will survive if I do.
Lifecall Reply: I have read your email and understand that you are upset and frightened and upset.
First we don't know if you are pregnant or not, so try to be patient and see what you find out. If you are pregnant you have to decide if you will follow God's commandment or not. His commandment is "Thou Shalt Not Kill". He doesn't say anything about if a baby is from parents of two different races. In your heart you must know that God would never want you to destroy this child no matter how upset your parents or others might be.
Have you read these pages of our website:
They might help you to think through your situation if you are pregnant. As for the young man's denial, after the possible child would be born a DNA test would prove his fatherhood. Often the courts order such a test.
Please take this situation one day at a time. Do not make choices for your parents, if in fact you are pregnant. You are their daughter and they have to decide how they will react for themselves.
If you are pregnant and you turn to God to ask for His Holy Spirit to guide you and strengthen you to follow His commandments. He will help you to do so.
Pray to Him now and He will help you. Know that I will be praying for you too.
In the 20 years of counseling pregnant women, I have come to know many who have had bi-racial children and feared their parent's reactions. In time ALL have come back together as families do. Yes, at first the stress and tension was great, but as long as the young mother held on to her beliefs and had her child, the family eventually came to understand and made the child a part of their family.
I hope this helps to strength you to indeed let this baby live, if you are in fact pregnant. Please write me back and keep me posted on how you are doing. O.K.?