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Excerpt: Our only daughter who is 21, is 7 months pregnant (we just found out 2 days ago). She has no boyfriend. The baby's father is NOT in her life. I was an unwed mother at 19. When I had my baby I lived at home after hearing HELL from my parents. I had no where to go. I lived at home for 4 years before I met my husband, who we have been married for 15 years now. We also have a 9 year old son.

We are successful. I thought I taught my daughter all about the mistake I made and I prayed she would never do what I did...but she did. Why, I ask God, as I cry and scream out loud. Please help me.......My husband kicked her out! I need HELP we all DO!

Lifecall Reply: Please forgive me for not writing sooner. I wanted to this morning but had a family situation myself that took up most of the day. I just couldn't go to sleep until I wrote you.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE AS A PARENT!!!

Trust me, I have been counseling unwed mothers and their parents for over 25 years. This is a complex world and you personally know things can just happen.

God is hearing your every thought, word and yes ..... scream too. He is there to help you thru this most difficult time.

And...He is pleased that your daughter didn't take the easy way out and abort your grandchild. You did well in teaching her to value life in the womb. You could have aborted her but did not. Right? Things are not all negative. My guess is that God is pleased with how you have raised your daughter.

Let me send you our hotline kit to show your husband. It may soften him. I know that now..this very minute, it seems that he will never love your daughter again but with time and with prayer the family wounds will heal. Prayer does change things.

Speak to your daughter. Let her know that you love her. Even if she can't come back home right now, she needs to know that you care about her.

You can't change the past. Your dear, sweet, precious grandbaby is going to be here in just 8 short weeks. Don't let the unfortunate circumstances of this child's conception, destroy the joy you will have when you first hold him or her.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!! One day at a time, with God to strengthen and guide, you will do this.

Please write to me and I will send you our free hotline kit. Does your daughter need a place to stay? If so, let me know and maybe we can find somewhere close by.

And...let's pray often for your husband to have a change of heart soon. I will be looking for your email.

Excerpt: I would like to make a comment on my son's partner who is thinking of having an abortion. Firstly, my son is serving a prison sentence in jail. Before he went to jail he had no idea his partner was pregnant.

We, as grandparents, found out about her pregnancy and as they have two small children, 2 years and 4 months old, she is thinking of having a abortion. We took her to the hospital where it was confirmed that she is 9 weeks pregnant and told to go back in 1 week's time to have a abortion. In the meantime, my wife and I have had time to think things over and we are against abortion. We are prepared to stick by her and if all else fails take her and the children into our home until my son gets out of jail. We are also prepared to have the newborn baby to save a LIFE. I would like point out that my son and his partner have drug problems but they are on Methadone.

I have gotten things off my chest and I will inform you in which way she goes on this subject. Thank you.

Another email excerpt from same grandparent: Thank you for responding and sending the hotline kits so quickly. I thank God for the job you are doing and will pray for your ministry in saving these precious lives of both mother and child.

My son thanked me today for sharing the information with this young girl about the life of the child within her. She shared with him that she has another friend who is pregnant and is considering having an abortion. By the grace of God, the two girls are going to dinner with me tomorrow night and we will spend time after praying and sharing facts about the life of the child they now carry. I have not met either girl face to face but have spoke to one on the phone.

Pray that the girls hearts are open and soften. I have been praying for both of them. The prayer that is really heavy on my heart is that that God will give them a dream and they would see the special child that is in their womb, that they would see this child has life.

Thanks for sending me the information. I will keep in touch and let you know how things are going. It's so hard to believe this goes on every day thanks again for your wonderful service to God and these special children and women.

Excerpt: l am 38 years old, a mother of two children, 21 and 17. My reason for writing is my son, the 17-year old, couldn't tell me he got his 15-year-old girlfriend pregnant and l found out three weeks later. She is approximately 14 weeks along in her pregnancy his sister told me last night . His girlfriend isn't allowed to talk to him, her parents have forbid it, he doesn't even know whether she is going to keep the baby, abort the baby, or give it up for adoption. He hasn't gotten any answers from her family. They tell him it's her decision, not his. He wants to do the right thing to try and support her in her decision, but they are so angry they won't listen to anyone. How can l help the two of them make the right decision when they are still babies themselves?

Lifecall Reply: I'm not quite sure what you are asking from your email. But, I most definitely would hope that your grandchild is not aborted. Maybe it would help if we sent you one of our hotline kits. Both your son and his girlfriend could look at the materials in it.....including two videos and several letters from teens that found themselves in the same situation.

These are not easy times for you, your son or his girlfriend. Please keep God and His Laws in mind as you try to cope with this unplanned pregnancy. Always remember the commandment "Thou Shalt Not Kill"

I know your involvement and the involvement of your son is not what you want it to be. Does his girlfriend have access to the Internet and email and IM's? I keep in touch with many pregnant women thru the Internet. Understand this.. your son is alive and so is his girlfriend. Your grandchild is also alive but needs some time to be born. Please do whatever you can to contact the other set of parents and assist your preborn grandchild to be born. I will be most pleased to help in any way.

Excerpt: Thank you so much for all your help. All I can do right now is cry and cry and cry. I have no clue what my girlfriend is going to do. She came over that day and took the pregnancy test, well it came out positive. She has the worst cramps that she just starts crying. I'm scared for her because she can't have this child.

The guy she loves with all her heart will get sent to prison and she goes and visits him in jail tomorrow. He knows about it and is trying his hardest to get out of that place to be there for her. He even cries for her. He is scared for what is going to hurt her. Now all I can do is cry at night and pray. Pray that the pregnancy test was wrong.

My 16-year-old friend is also pregnant but she is also 2 years older and everything but she has to give her child up for adoption so I am taking her baby in. I am pretty sure you have to be 18 years old to adopt a baby, right? Well, my mom said she would adopt it but it would be my baby to take care of and be there for, which is totally cool for me. It's going to be open adoption so she can get her baby back when she is 18 years old because her mom won't let her keep it. I am just trying to help her and her baby because I care about them both. I mean, whatever it takes to give her baby the care it needs, I am going to be there because she has already signed me as the Godmother to her baby. Which makes me happy because I am going to treat that baby like no one has ever seen anyone treated.

Yeah, you can send me that Chastity thing that you were asking me about - I would love you to. Well thanks for all your help and please pray for my girlfriend, that's all I ask now. I will hand one out to my other friend who is pregnant and someone else who is sexually active. Thank you so much for all your help. You have been here for me through the good times and bad. You are God's angel sent from above to help all those young teens out there looking for help, I know you are. God will cherish you for that; you are there for everyone and you are doing a good job at it too.

When I get a car I want to come meet you. Would that be a problem? I want to come see your home that you have for those girls that have trouble raising their children, can I do that? I would really like that. Even though it would be not this summer but next summer because I will be getting a car next year and I would have to go when school is out. Well good luck on everything in life. I hope you help all those girls out there and save all the unborn children Bye sweetie!

Lifecall Reply: You are a remarkable young woman and I am proud you call you friend. I truly believe what you and your mother are doing is fantastic. All I can say is WOW !!!

Please let your mother know I am praying for you both. You are truly a lifesaver. You too are a mini-prolife foundation. Please let's do stay in touch and let me help you as much as possible. I just wish you were closer to me. But we can stay in touch through the Internet. I'm going to send you four chastity kits. Keep one and give the others to your friends, O.K.?

When you start crying, say a quick prayer, "Dear Lord, Please help me to stop crying and know that you are always here to help me. Amen."

I worry about all these tears. I hope you understand. I am thinking and praying for you all day long. Again please stay in touch. God bless.

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