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"Saved" Baby Jonathan
(born November 11, 2009)
Jonathan's 18 year old mother found out about our shelter when her baby's father found us in the yellow pages. We told her to get a cab and come for an interview. She was accepted and moved in the next day. Now she has gone from being homeless to having a healthy, handsome son and being a freshman in college. Go to the pages on this website that list Shelters by state and Crisis Pregnancy Centers. There are many people who want to help you too!
Excerpt: I don't know what to do. I have just found out I am pregnant again.
I already have one child. My son is with my mother she has custody of him. This is so hard but since you have helped so many other people I thought maybe you could help me.
The reason why I am asking for your help is because when I had my first son it wasn't because I wanted to but because I felt I had no choice in the matter. The reason why I felt that way is because I wanted my mother's support for that one thing and she wouldn't give it to me in that matter. I was only 17 when I found out I was pregnant with him and I had a lot of problems and I knew I couldn't handle having a child.
I went through nine months of really bad depression. I had felt like my life wasn't worth living. Everyday I fought myself to do the things in an everyday life, like get out of bed eat and things like that. I only went through the pregnancy because I felt I couldn't have an abortion because of my mother.
I look back on it now and if I could change it I would have had an abortion. For the last 23 months since the day I found out my life has been miserable. That sounds really bad I know. I love my son just not in the way a parent should at least that's what I think.
So now that I am pregnant again and I don't know what to do or what would be best for both the child and me. I want an abortion but then again I want to have it.
Lifecall Reply: I must admit your email has different ideas and thoughts in it. I don't usually hear or live with women who are sorry that they had their children. Parenting is difficult.
I have a theory, it is quite simple. What about God? Do you think of Him during the day? Do you read the scriptures to try to find out how He thinks or be inspired on what to do with your life problems?
Life is difficult. Pregnancies happen without plans in place. Parents aren't what they should be. Children can give more struggles and problems then expected. I believe we have a counselor available to us every minute of the day and night. All we have to do is have faith and ask for His Guidance.
And now we come to the most critical problem you face. You are pregnant again. I'm not quite sure why you are writing to me accept that in some way you inside your heart simply know that abortion is wrong and against God's commandment of "Thou Shalt Not Kill." Nothing you or I say or do can change that fact. It sure is a strange thing that God wrote His Commandments in stone. Maybe He did so because He wanted man to know that they could not be changed.
Have you ever thought of adoption? You won't believe how many phone calls I get from people who are desperate to adopt a child. Adoption is an Option. I know it is not an easy choice but it would be a Godly solution. And your child would be alive.
Thank God you have never had an abortion. So many of my emails come from women who wished they could turn back the hands of time and undo their abortions. Their child had no choice and they live a life filled with regrets and what if's. Women Who Chose Abortion.
I hope this email in some small way might help you to choose life for your preborn child. Please write me back if there is anything I can do to help you. I would be glad to send you one of our free hotline kits that might help you to decide. It includes videos, photos and lots of items. Just send me a mailing address if you would like to have one.
Excerpt: I am a 21-year-old Mom of 6 wonderful children. I recently found out that I was expecting another child. I am about 9 weeks along and thinking about abortion.
Now I know that is not the way to go but, with 6 kids and no where to go it is kind of hard when you're out on the street and no one to help. I did go to the hospital and they told me I have blood clots under the placenta and around the baby. My doctor told me that I will miscarry or the baby will be stillborn.
So I did ask for a D and C and he refused. I really don't understand why. I would not have any problem keeping my child but what is a dumb mother like me to do. I have no choice but to abort.
Lifecall Reply: You certainly have a very difficult situation. I hope your doctor can be more supportive. With six children and so many troubles, could you ever consider adoption?
At least the child would be alive and you would not have broken God's commandment "Thou Shalt not kill." No matter how difficult, His law does not change. I guess that is why He originally wrote them in stone.
I would like to send you one of our hotline kits for pregnant women. Could you please send me a mailing address? It's free of charge.
Keep close to God in daily prayer. He will help you through this pregnancy. Don't loose faith in Him. And be assured of my continued help and prayers.
Excerpt: He doesn't want the baby, what should I do? Help! I am pregnant with my second child who has the same father as the first.
He doesn't want the baby, because we can't afford it. So my only option would be to abort the baby, but I do not believe in abortion.
Every one that I have told, except maybe one or two people have told me to get rid of it. I know that I shouldn't listen to other people, and that I should listen to my heart but the situation itself is not good.
My son's father was never there for him, he is just now really starting to be a part of his life, only because his girlfriend kicked him out of the house, so he is staying with me.
I would like to know if you know of any resources that I could turn to for help. I don' t want to get rid of my unborn baby, but I don't know which road to take. I would appreciate it if you could possible give me some insight on the situation. I thank you for any help that you could give.
Lifecall Reply: Thank you so much for emailing me about your preborn child. I will do all that I can to help you. Most definitely there are resources out there to help you. And I will do my very best to help you find them all.
First, do not ...please... abort your baby. This little one was given a soul by God at the very moment of his conception. God loves you and your children both born and preborn.... very, very much. God will always be there for you to help you in your parenting responsibilities. All you have to do is ask it of Him !!!
I need to get my directory and find a page from Internet for you to explore, but I wanted to get this first email off to you right away. Would you be willing to send me a mailing address and then I can Fedex you one of our hotline kits? I just know you and your baby's father would greatly benefit from watching our videos and reading our letters and seeing our beautiful baby photos.
I believe you had the courage to write to me today because you know inside your heart that this baby that sleeps in your womb is alive and needs to be born. A mother's heart always knows. And all you have to do is look at your first-born son to know what life means to a child. What would your son think if ever he found out you aborted his baby brother or sister? Would he think, "What if I were conceived second instead of first? Would my mother have aborted me?" Isn't it logical that he might think like this?
But the true key to the discussion is: Do you believe in God? If you do, then it only follows that you know one of His commandments is: "Thou Shalt Not Kill." His laws are written on our hearts. You are feeling His Word on your heart. Don't do this... you will regret it all your life.
If truly you can't see yourself raising another baby, then please consider adoption. At least the child would be alive. And two people who cannot have children would be blessed by your unselfish act of motherhood.
Please write back. I promise to be praying for you and your baby that peacefully sleeps inside your womb. And if you haven't seen our web pages, please click on these:
Excerpt: I am in a terrible situation and don't know what to do. I am 4 weeks pregnant and the father wants me to have an abortion.
I met him a little over a year ago at work and we became very good friends. He is married for the second time and is unhappy in the marriage and things just happened between us. I did not get pregnant on purpose but due to some medication I had to take my birth control was not effective enough and I became pregnant.
He has two children from his first wife that he pays support for and says he can't afford a second divorce. He says he doesn't want me to have this baby and has had me schedule an appt. in 2 weeks for an abortion.
I already have two children ages 11 yrs. and 13 yrs. and can barely afford to take care of them because I am a single mom with no help from their father. My mother has always been a support system to me and I know she will be furious with me if I tell her that I am having a baby since she has had to be the one to help me raise my other two children.
I know he doesn't want me to have the baby and mom will be so mad that I'm not sure she'd have anything more to do with me, and I am not really financially able to afford another child but how can I even think about aborting my baby? Part of me thinks that maybe the best thing is to do it but then another part of me wants to keep my baby and try.
The father has been making my life miserable the last two days hounding me about getting the abortion and not keeping the baby. Can you please give me some advice? I'm confused and scared. Please e-mail me back as soon as possible. Thank you.
Lifecall Reply: I read your email carefully. If you don't mind I'd like to begin with a short reaction and then address your specific questions.
You seem to be a concerned mother who already loves her child that now sleeps safely in her womb. The man who is the father of this child .... well... your child, (his child), has become to him something that most get destroyed.
Your mom, who knows nothing about this grandchild, may or may not in time understand and support you.
Your innocent preborn child is dependent on your love for him or her.
I have a favorite expression. "The past predicts the future." By that, I mean in a new situation like this pregnancy and a new baby being born, when its hard to see what is going to happen, I look at what has gone on before as an indicator of what might happen in the future.
You have had two children already and know the beauty and wonder of the gift of life. Your mom, while she will be upset and disappointed, she has helped you in the past. She has a relationship with her grandchildren now and once she gets over the news of a new grandchild, she will again help you.
This man who now has been married twice has broken his marriage vow and is now pressuring you and most likely no matter what you do will "break" his "commitment" to you.
Your preborn child is here already. If left alone this innocent little one will grow and be born. If aborted this little one will be torn apart and suffer a terrible cruel death.
No one else in your life is facing death but this tiny innocent child. And remember this child received from God (the Creator of Life) his or her immortal soul at the very moment of conception Development of a Preborn.
I don't have the ability to predict the future but from my experience of counseling pregnant women for over 20 years, I can tell you that if you abort this baby the father will be relieved, the baby will be destroyed (see Diary of a Preborn). And you will have to live with the grief for all eternity (see Women Who Chose Abortion) And God's commandment of "Thou Shalt not kill" will be broken.
Now I will ask a question that I think I know the answer to but I have to ask it anyway. Have you considered adoption? It is a way of preserving the life of your child. Yes...it would be a sacrifice for you but your baby would survive and you would have the knowledge that you didn't let a mistake turn into the death of an innocent child. You mention the costs of having this child. If you choose adoption couple who would adopt your child would absorb those costs. You could also arrange what they call an open adoption where you get to pick the couple and you can ask for photos and updates on what is happening to your baby.
One of my girls years ago was just starting on the Ladies Professional Golf tour when she found out that she was pregnant. She courageously took off a few months and stayed with one of our housemothers. The young woman used to think of herself as a "hotel" for the little baby growing inside of her. She would say to me that she had to eat well and sleep well so that her little guest" would have a good stay inside of her while she was waiting to go to her permanent home which was the young couple that would eventually adopt the baby. I think of her often and of how sweetly and lovingly she gave life to her child.
You might be thinking what has all this to do with my problem. Well, I want to help and sometimes its hard to do so in an email.
I have a favorite thought I like to share with the women who write to me. I often say to them that I wish I had a time machine that I could put them into and let them see what their lives would be like in the years to come. Let them see how they would be attending High School graduations instead of saying secretly to themselves, "I wonder how old my child would be today if I had not aborted my child." I try to forward them in time to see how life unfolds and how loving the choice for life can be and how truly destructive an abortion is for all involved.
In my opinion, the "part of you" that thinks abortion might be the best thing to do, it really is Satan or one of his demons tempting you to go against God's law. It is the classic fight of good against evil. Life versus death. And you are the focal point. The father wants you to move quickly so you won't have time to think, to pray, to ask others for advice and help and support.
Let me help you. Our foundation is ready to do so. Please, for the sake of your preborn child, for your sake, for the sake of God Himself, let this baby live.
Have you ever seen what a first trimester abortion does? You can look at our video, Silent Scream, or we can send you a copy of the tape. It might be good to do so because then you could give it to the father to let him see what he wants you to do. Men don't seem to realize that it is YOU who has to sign the papers, get up on the table and, in the end, live with the guilt of an abortion.
I would like to send you our hotline kit. It is free of charge and would again be a good thing to show to the baby's father. You should most definitely see it before keeping any appointment to abort this little child, which of course I am hoping and praying you will not do.
And what about your prayer life? Somehow I think you have one, especially now. I just get this feeling that you are praying very, very hard these days. Am I correct? Maybe God inspired you to get to our website and to write to me because He heard your heartfelt prayers and wanted to reach out during this your time of great struggle and suffering so that you could get the support you need to choose life for your preborn child. He knows what is in your heart and on your mind. He will help you if you ask it of Him. He loves you and your children..... all your children. He is concerned about you and all of your children, most especially now that you are putting yourself in the position of possibly breaking one of His most important commandments and possibly taking the life of your very own child. He knows you don't want to do this terrible thing so maybe He put us together so that we can form a team, a team fighting for the continuation of the life of your child. I am willing to fight that good fight for a very long time. I mean it.
My foundation will help you. Not just for a day or a week....but for as long as it takes. That is what we are here for.
It is a very high honor to be just able to answer your email and put you on my buddy list. I just hope we can talk soon. So let me get this email off to you and see if you answer me. I sure hope so. Until then, I will be praying for you and hold you and your preborn baby in a very special place inside my heart as I know God is also doing this very moment and since your conception and since the conception of that very special tiny little person who you have begun to love enough to find someone like me to write to. You are a good mother now and you have the strength and determination to continue to be a great life-saving mother for all eternity.
Excerpt: I just found out that I am pregnant with my second child. My husband moved out of the house four months ago, and has been planning on moving back home. He does not want me to have the baby, and I would like to know where I could obtain a copy of this movie to show him what really happens in an abortion. I refuse to do it, and he doesn't understand why. He thinks that the baby is just tissue and not really a baby right now. He feels that I'm being selfish.
Lifecall Reply: God bless you for trying to have your baby. We would be more than happy to federal express you a free copy of the video "Silent Scream". Also, you can go to this site, http://www.silentscream.org/. I am sure that your husband will change his mind and heart after watching it.
This must be so difficult for you but know that God is protecting you and will help you and your family through this struggle. All you have to do is ask it of Him. I will be praying for you too. I am copying my secretary on this email. Please send her your address ... Fedex likes to have a phone number too for delivery. If you want us to only send it US Mail, then we won't need the phone number. I really would like to be a support person and friend to you in this your time of great need. God bless you and your preborn child.