So You Want To Become A Teen Mom?

Letters of Advice from our Several Sources Teen Moms

Dear Reader:

I am 9 months pregnant. Through these 9 long months I have encountered situations, events, and decisions that I was not ready to handle. For example: My self-esteem was not too great before I got pregnant. I depended on others approval and love to make me happy. Having a child so that you can have someone love you is not how it works with babies. You have to teach the baby love first before it can love you. You can't depend on a baby to fill your emotional needs. You have to learn how to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. Or anyone else can love.

Sometimes I think about what I could be doing at this second, going out with friends, movies, theme parks, and I miss it. I am not saying that you still can't do these things, but when you're a young pregnant child you get looks and comments everywhere you go. Now if you just want someone to love you, this is not the way. You are going to lose trust from people who do love you.

First, learn how to love yourself for who you are and not worry about how others don't love like you. Because they're not worth your time or worry.

  • Sincerely,
  • Lauren (17yr)

Letter From Deeply Concerned

Dear Friend,

I am sixteen and pregnant. Even though I have chosen to keep my baby, being pregnant is not fun. Being as young as I am, being pregnant excludes me from many things.

I cannot go on amusement rides, I can't take most medications like Advil, I am more susceptible to getting sick and for the first three months I get sick every morning. I have to be responsible because I'm ling for this now, and I can never be a kid again. If you are on your own, financially you will not be able to provide a healthy environment for you and your baby, and most of the time, the father is not supportive. You should at least wait till your married so your baby is guaranteed a father. It's not fair for you or your baby to get pregnant when you're not ready. It's so hard and the pain can be unbearable. Try to see if you have other options before you get yourself into something you will regret.

  • Love,
  • Deeply concerned

Letter From Deeply Concerned

Dear Friend,

I am sixteen and pregnant. Even though I have chosen to keep my baby, being pregnant is not fun. Being as young as I am, being pregnant excludes me from many things.

I cannot go on amusement rides, I can't take most medications like Advil, I am more susceptible to getting sick and for the first three months I get sick every morning. I have to be responsible because I'm ling for this now, and I can never be a kid again. If you are on your own, financially you will not be able to provide a healthy environment for you and your baby, and most of the time, the father is not supportive. You should at least wait till your married so your baby is guaranteed a father. It's not fair for you or your baby to get pregnant when you're not ready. It's so hard and the pain can be unbearable. Try to see if you have other options before you get yourself into something you will regret.

  • Love,
  • Deeply concerned

Letter From Camille

Dear Reader,

I'm 20 yrs old with a 4 yr old son. I got pregnant when I was 15. I thought I was ready for a baby. Don't get me wrong, I love him. When I first found out I was pregnant I was happy but that was the end of my happiness. I dropped out of school, because everybody was talking about me being so young and pregnant. I couldn't hang out with my friends any more, everything was just going down the drain. 9 months later things got even more hectic. The baby kept me up all night, I have to make bottles, change diapers, it's just not easy. At one point I thought about running away from home, because I just couldn't take it any more. I just needed time for myself. If I could turn back the hands of time, I would wait until I'm finished with school and have a stable job. Its just not easy. So take my advice. Think twice. It's not as easy as it seems.

  • Love
  • Camille (16)

Letter From Angie

Dear Teenager,

Hi, my name is Angela. I am 4 and 1/2 months pregnant and only 16 years old. I never thought how hard it would be to have a baby so young, I never thought how many family members I would lose but most of all, I never thought of all the pain and sadness that would be in my life. I lost so much friends and family I thought would love me no matter what situation would happen. The only thing I really have is the father of my baby but he is so far apart from me and so confused. It's not easy to have a child, life can really be hard. Every night I think of it, I cry myself to sleep. I feel like I have no one to say I love you or I am here for you and it hurts me so very much. I know you probably don't care about what I am saying but please, think about what you're going to do because it's not easy. Thank you for giving me your time to read my true life story.

  • Your friend
  • Angie (16)

Letter From Deeply Concerned

Dear Friend,

I am 19 yrs old and in the midst of preparing for the birth of a new life. At 4 months of pregnancy my life has become a series of doctor's visits, health concerns, financial difficulty, and relationship problems.

At first, the thought of having a baby seemed kind of entertaining. A cute, cuddly, gurgling baby to take to the park and birthday parties didn't seem so strenuous. However, as the months go by, I am slowly realizing that not only are babies a cute showpiece, but a ton of responsibility. Inside the womb and out, these children need care and nutrition both of which are difficult to offer without stability. Many young girls make a decision to have a child without taking into consideration the consequences. No, I do not regret the conception of my child. However, writing to you form a shelter, I can't help, but feel sorry for my unborn child. How selfish can it be to create a life and not be able to offer it everything it needs. I often become very upset at the fact that my child is not going to have the best, simply because I can't offer it. Please, think twice - no, three times before making a decision that will not only affect your life, and the lives of those love you, but an innocent born child's.

  • Sincerely,
  • Deeply concerned

Letter From Chelli

Dear Reader,

I heard you want to become a teen mom. While I'm a little older, I still wanted to write you. I'm 22 years old already and I'm 6 months pregnant. I may have gone through a bit of experiences and challenges in my 22 years of existent but nothing prepared me for this situation. Having a baby is a tremendous responsibility. A baby is the most wonderful gift that God would even give a woman, but the most wonderful gift a mom would ever give to her baby, next to life, is a good future. Remember that there is a time for everything. You are still a young person so please make the most out of it and enjoy life.

  • Love,
  • Chelli

Letter From Several Sources Shelter Housemom

Dear Teen,

I am housemother to three teen moms who struggle every day with unplanned pregnancies. When I heard about your desire to have a baby now, before you were married, I had to write this letter. I realize that you want a child and I feel your need for love and belonging. But have you thought about the consequences? While a child is a true blessing from God you need to be prepared mentally, emotionally and spiritually for such a glorious event in your life. At such a young age you should be concentrating on school social activities, sports and not on conceiving a child. Put your faith in God, trust His complete Love for you, and surrender your thoughts of having a child to God. He will guide you, if you ask Him to in the best direction for your life. He will give you the love you need to nourish your heart and soul. Ask Him to help you find a good husband and then the time will be right to have a child. I've seen too many broken hearts. Please don't add yours to my list! I will be praying for you.

  • Sincerely,
  • A Several Sources Shelter Housemother